Relationship Talk: Understanding Men

Men are the simplest species I’ve ever handled in my life. No man is difficult; ignorance is what makes it difficult. If you want your fiancé/husband to treat you like the greatest treasure on earth, you must understand what makes a man a man; the right buttons to click to enjoy a sweet, blissful, heaven on earth marriage/relationship!

1. First Love

A man’s first love is his work (because a man must succeed). Not making progress in life is like being impotent or castrated! You must understand this and give him space to succeed. This requires time, efforts, focus, sleepless nights. To demand he spends all his working hours watching a romantic movie with you is to turn him to a perpetual failure! Ladies who disturb their fiancé at work per minute, per second are a big turn off!

2. Ego

He needs his ego to be the head of his home and to succeed. You must distinguish between ego and pride. A man with a healthy ego will listen to you but firmly and lovingly let you know his final decision. A man with pride won’t listen to you at all, snob you and treat you like trash!

A man with a healthy ego is not a dummy! Some women expect their men to take all their advice and follow all their instruction but that’s impossible! He can’t take everything. He will take the ones that make sense and put aside the ones that will land you in trouble.

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3. Men Are Moved By Sight

I pity male gender honestly; the temptation they face daily, only the God of heaven understands because women are refusing to understand!

Ladies, try as much as you can to COVER-UP whenever you are with him. I don’t understand how a Christian sister will go to her fiancé’s house with a mini skirt and laps thrown apart right in front of him! Each time you bend, your big mammalian glands may stare menacingly at him thanks to the low neckline you wore.

In marriage, you must deliberately make your husband chase you around for sex; just one look at some wives and all the sexual desire the husband has flown right through the window! Bushy armpit, torn underwear, ragged pant etc. Yet the man is surrounded by sweet-smelling, well dressed, tantalizing, head swooning babes at work! Wives, you must keep packaging and re-packaging! Get a transparent bra that pushes the central focus forward, jaw-dropping lingerie, sex triggering perfumes and blow his imagination off as often as you can (this is strictly for the married).

4. Peace Of Mind

Nagging, criticizing, shouting, yelling, abusing and cursing can destabilize a man; you should minimize it as much as possible; in fact, stop it altogether.

Some husbands hate coming home early because the troublesome wife will nag life out of him till late in the night! Once he wakes up, she repeats the cycle until he leaves home!

5. Quality Food

Unless he didn’t give you enough money or he likes it, concoction rice with ground pepper, onions, coconut oil and Maggi is an insult to him! Watery stew that drops to his elbow while eating is a big bomb on his head! His money should reflect what you cook, please! Maximize what you have, treat him like a king!

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6. Men Love To Be Praised

Candidly, the praise of man is my natural territory! When I noticed it almost landed me in trouble as guys kept giving the chase, I stopped it altogether and focus on my husband.

If you are a man-praiser, you will never lack a man’s love all your life! You will be pampered, loved and cherished! I’ve never met a single man who does not respond to praise!

Stingy, selfish, bitterly critical women who see nothing good in their husbands never have lasting marriages! Praise your husband silly! Appreciate his efforts in your life. Look out for his good qualities and his song in his ears daily!

I love praising my husband, it gives me deep pleasure doing so, he sure deserves it and he enjoys listening to it.

7. Respect Him

You must be humble if you want to be under any man’s roof! Respect is the food of every man. Learn to respect your fiancé, show honour to your husband. Saying “yes sir” when appropriate won’t make you less of a woman! Learn how to talk to a man. Some women just don’t know how to talk!

Never correct him in public, don’t send him on an errand in front of his friends, stop making a joke of him in front of the children, it’s bad!!!

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8. Submit To Him

God states it clearly, “wives, submit to your husbands.” Submit your body and other things when he needs them. If you have any trouble with that, ask God, not me. Why was Abraham madly in love with Sarah? She didn’t allow her exceptional beauty to make her proud; she was a very submissive, respectful wife who called her husband “Lord.”

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9. Support

The gentlemen want women who can support whenever they need help. Lots of men are getting support from work colleagues who are eager to help when he needs it most while the wife is clueless or left him to handle his problems by himself. Why then did he get married to you? What is the woman’s role in his life as a HELPER?

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10. Men Go Through Seasons

The season of little, the season of managing, the season of abundance! No man wants a gold digger who runs away when he has challenges only to show up when millions flowing in his account!

Conclusion

Men are not difficult at all. These and more are what makes a man tick, thrive and enjoy the woman he has vowed to spend the rest of his life with.

Can you be that kind of woman?
Do you have what it takes to make your husband happy and fulfilled?

Think about it…

By Dr Becky Enenche

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